Comments on: Practice the Golden Rule of Dating – Guest Post by Jeremy Orr http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/07/13/golden-rule-of-dating/ Fri, 12 Mar 2010 14:11:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jenny Blake http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/07/13/golden-rule-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1874 Jenny Blake Wed, 29 Jul 2009 18:21:53 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/?p=696#comment-1874 That is such an interesting article, Chinarut - thanks for sharing! That is such an interesting article, Chinarut – thanks for sharing!

]]> By: Chinarut http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/07/13/golden-rule-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1855 Chinarut Mon, 27 Jul 2009 18:14:47 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/?p=696#comment-1855 hey - it's nice to follow this thread - i found the article i wanted to share with y'all earlier bout "ambient intimacy" and the role technology plays - it's one of my favorites if you haven't read it yet! http://www.nytimes.com/2008/09/07/magazine/07awareness-t.html?_r=1 enjoy! hey – it’s nice to follow this thread – i found the article i wanted to share with y’all earlier bout “ambient intimacy” and the role technology plays – it’s one of my favorites if you haven’t read it yet!

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/09......html?_r=1

enjoy!

]]> By: Justin Noland http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/07/13/golden-rule-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1830 Justin Noland Tue, 21 Jul 2009 21:06:26 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/?p=696#comment-1830 It definitely seems like being honest about who you are should be a given, but it isn't. Dating is a fairly simple concept of finding a person who you connect with and have a mutual attraction. It doesn't have to be any more complex than that. Don't take it so personally when someone decides that you aren't the one for them and vice versa. It isn't an insult, just a fact, get on with your life and your search. Everyone deserves the common courtesy of a quick phone call. It doesn't have to get detailed. No reason to tell a guy that his crooked teeth bother you so much that you can never see yourself kissing him, but a quick call to say, "Hey, you're cool, but just not for me. Thanks for the date." How hard is that? Also, "Online Dating" is a misnomer. You are not dating anyone online. Online introductions and conversations take place, but until you meet, you are not dating. The web has provided a beautiful tool to allow you to expand your possible match horizons, find someone with common interests and gauge their personality long before actually talking to them or seeing them. However, nothing can replace the butterflies in the stomach and electricity in the air of actually spending time with someone. Great work Jeremy. It definitely seems like being honest about who you are should be a given, but it isn’t. Dating is a fairly simple concept of finding a person who you connect with and have a mutual attraction. It doesn’t have to be any more complex than that. Don’t take it so personally when someone decides that you aren’t the one for them and vice versa. It isn’t an insult, just a fact, get on with your life and your search. Everyone deserves the common courtesy of a quick phone call. It doesn’t have to get detailed. No reason to tell a guy that his crooked teeth bother you so much that you can never see yourself kissing him, but a quick call to say, “Hey, you’re cool, but just not for me. Thanks for the date.” How hard is that?

Also, “Online Dating” is a misnomer. You are not dating anyone online. Online introductions and conversations take place, but until you meet, you are not dating. The web has provided a beautiful tool to allow you to expand your possible match horizons, find someone with common interests and gauge their personality long before actually talking to them or seeing them. However, nothing can replace the butterflies in the stomach and electricity in the air of actually spending time with someone.

Great work Jeremy.

]]> By: Thao Ly http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/07/13/golden-rule-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1811 Thao Ly Fri, 17 Jul 2009 23:25:41 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/?p=696#comment-1811 That picture is hilarious! That picture is hilarious!

]]> By: Jeremy Orr http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/07/13/golden-rule-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1807 Jeremy Orr Fri, 17 Jul 2009 00:02:07 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/?p=696#comment-1807 Wow, so many great comments, thank you for reading and finding as much interest in this as I do. I think many of us trying to date these days have come across the similar circumstances, this culture of dating if you will, where people think it's ok to be disrespectful. It's just people choosing the easy wrong over the hard right. As a friend said to me yesterday when we were discussing this: you wouldn't act this way in business or treat your friends and family in this manner. It's high time we changed this dating culture. Wow, so many great comments, thank you for reading and finding as much interest in this as I do.

I think many of us trying to date these days have come across the similar circumstances, this culture of dating if you will, where people think it’s ok to be disrespectful. It’s just people choosing the easy wrong over the hard right. As a friend said to me yesterday when we were discussing this: you wouldn’t act this way in business or treat your friends and family in this manner. It’s high time we changed this dating culture.

]]> By: Jenny Blake http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/07/13/golden-rule-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1806 Jenny Blake Thu, 16 Jul 2009 23:41:56 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/?p=696#comment-1806 Thanks Chinarut! I completely agree that knowing yourself and what YOU want (not what you think others want) is the number one factor. Without that, it's like dating in the dark (hey, isn't there a reality show on that now?). And oh yes, how could we forget about patience. :D I feel like when it comes to dating that is my middle name! I am often reminding myself to let go of expectations, be patient and just enjoy my life right now as it is. Thanks again for stopping by! Thanks Chinarut! I completely agree that knowing yourself and what YOU want (not what you think others want) is the number one factor. Without that, it’s like dating in the dark (hey, isn’t there a reality show on that now?).

And oh yes, how could we forget about patience. :D I feel like when it comes to dating that is my middle name! I am often reminding myself to let go of expectations, be patient and just enjoy my life right now as it is.

Thanks again for stopping by!

]]> By: Jenny Blake http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/07/13/golden-rule-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1805 Jenny Blake Thu, 16 Jul 2009 23:40:30 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/?p=696#comment-1805 Epic is right! Time for an updated photo shoot - we were so good at those :D. Good luck studying for the bar exam! Epic is right! Time for an updated photo shoot – we were so good at those :D . Good luck studying for the bar exam!

]]> By: Jenny Blake http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/07/13/golden-rule-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1804 Jenny Blake Thu, 16 Jul 2009 23:39:46 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/?p=696#comment-1804 Hey Grace! Thanks so much for your comment. It's so, SO true that we often place a double-standard on others in terms of what we expect when dating. If a guy doesn't call, he's an asshole. If we don't call (making sweeping generalizations here) - well - that's just how you handle it. Not fair! Jeremy gives us all a good reminder to treat each other with respect and dignity - even when it feels like the hardest route to take. Hey Grace! Thanks so much for your comment. It’s so, SO true that we often place a double-standard on others in terms of what we expect when dating. If a guy doesn’t call, he’s an asshole. If we don’t call (making sweeping generalizations here) – well – that’s just how you handle it. Not fair! Jeremy gives us all a good reminder to treat each other with respect and dignity – even when it feels like the hardest route to take.

]]> By: Jenny Blake http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/07/13/golden-rule-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1803 Jenny Blake Thu, 16 Jul 2009 23:38:26 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/?p=696#comment-1803 Irina - that is so funny that Lauren was your freshman orientation leader!! That cracks me up. I was one too -- I bet our paths crossed long, long ago and we didn't even know it. Now look at us! I love your persistence and determination when it comes to guys - now lets just find a good one that will return the favor for you!! Irina – that is so funny that Lauren was your freshman orientation leader!! That cracks me up. I was one too — I bet our paths crossed long, long ago and we didn’t even know it. Now look at us!

I love your persistence and determination when it comes to guys – now lets just find a good one that will return the favor for you!!

]]> By: Chinarut http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/07/13/golden-rule-of-dating/comment-page-1/#comment-1802 Chinarut Thu, 16 Jul 2009 20:05:05 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/?p=696#comment-1802 wow- this post is great! i think the whole point around knowing who you are and just being yourself is important. i think in our online world of dating - it's very easy to have expectations of who the other person is (and perhaps is not!) before you meet them and well, if both parties don't let go, it ain't gonna turn out so hot! and then there's patience :) wow- this post is great! i think the whole point around knowing who you are and just being yourself is important. i think in our online world of dating – it’s very easy to have expectations of who the other person is (and perhaps is not!) before you meet them and well, if both parties don’t let go, it ain’t gonna turn out so hot!

and then there’s patience :)

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