Comments on: Dating: Do you go for Quality or Quantity? http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/08/26/dating-quality-or-quantity/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 14:52:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Frybread http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/08/26/dating-quality-or-quantity/comment-page-2/#comment-6480 Frybread Wed, 03 Nov 2010 19:59:00 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/?p=848#comment-6480 <i>"Is it also so wrong to think that instead of mechanically arranging a first date based on my online dating resume that someone will see me from across a room in a coffee shop, think I look interesting, take a risk and come say hello?"</i> It's the 21st century. How about you YOU do the approaching? Maybe your chances will improve. Also, IMO there are women who could do more to make themselves approachable in public. Do you wear headphones, scowl or do anything else that would keep men from approaching you? “Is it also so wrong to think that instead of mechanically arranging a first date based on my online dating resume that someone will see me from across a room in a coffee shop, think I look interesting, take a risk and come say hello?”

It’s the 21st century. How about you YOU do the approaching? Maybe your chances will improve.

Also, IMO there are women who could do more to make themselves approachable in public. Do you wear headphones, scowl or do anything else that would keep men from approaching you?

]]> By: college dating http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/08/26/dating-quality-or-quantity/comment-page-2/#comment-4887 college dating Fri, 13 Aug 2010 08:57:40 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/?p=848#comment-4887 Really liked this post... probably because I share a very similar perspective. <br><br>Funny story regarding online dating: One of my best friends met his now wife through online dating. He received an email introduction to her within 24 hours of signing up for the service... so she was the first and only date he went on. <br><br>However, it was pretty much the opposite for her. She had tried and failed several times, over the course of several years before finding "the one". <br><br>Not sure if there's a "moral to the story" anywhere in there, but thought that was pretty interesting nonetheless. Really liked this post… probably because I share a very similar perspective.

Funny story regarding online dating: One of my best friends met his now wife through online dating. He received an email introduction to her within 24 hours of signing up for the service… so she was the first and only date he went on.

However, it was pretty much the opposite for her. She had tried and failed several times, over the course of several years before finding “the one”.

Not sure if there's a “moral to the story” anywhere in there, but thought that was pretty interesting nonetheless.

]]> By: jennyblake http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/08/26/dating-quality-or-quantity/comment-page-2/#comment-4492 jennyblake Mon, 28 Jun 2010 03:11:55 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/?p=848#comment-4492 Hey Connelly! Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts...I<br>can imagine that you've been pretty heads-down and focused while in your<br>Ph.D. program. I just keep the faith that things will work out exactly as<br>they should and that the time we spend working and pursuing big goals is<br>time well spent. Glad to hear that you're not letting the lack of dating get<br>you down any more...I definitely have had some low moments where I wondered<br>what was wrong with me too. Now I'm just glad to have some clarity of<br>thought around the benefits of being single. I hope you had a great weekend,<br>and may we both find someone great some day! :D Hey Connelly! Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts…I
can imagine that you've been pretty heads-down and focused while in your
Ph.D. program. I just keep the faith that things will work out exactly as
they should and that the time we spend working and pursuing big goals is
time well spent. Glad to hear that you're not letting the lack of dating get
you down any more…I definitely have had some low moments where I wondered
what was wrong with me too. Now I'm just glad to have some clarity of
thought around the benefits of being single. I hope you had a great weekend,
and may we both find someone great some day! :D

]]> By: Connellybarnes http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/08/26/dating-quality-or-quantity/comment-page-2/#comment-4489 Connellybarnes Fri, 25 Jun 2010 09:05:07 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/?p=848#comment-4489 Hey you're certainly not alone in not dating for years. I haven't really dated anyone during my entire M.S/Ph.D. program at Princeton (since 2006). I'm graduating next year! I did attempt to date some girls, but they weren't really into me, or it didn't go anywhere. It got me down for a while, I figured something was wrong with me. But it is hard, I'm fairly talkative but somewhat shy. I guess as a guy one just has to express interest and then move on if the lady isn't single or there is no connection. Be aggressive that is, not passive. Who knows. I guess one just has to keep trying. Couldn't hurt to flirt as a lady either, with guys you think might be good. Hey you're certainly not alone in not dating for years. I haven't really dated anyone during my entire M.S/Ph.D. program at Princeton (since 2006). I'm graduating next year! I did attempt to date some girls, but they weren't really into me, or it didn't go anywhere. It got me down for a while, I figured something was wrong with me. But it is hard, I'm fairly talkative but somewhat shy. I guess as a guy one just has to express interest and then move on if the lady isn't single or there is no connection. Be aggressive that is, not passive. Who knows. I guess one just has to keep trying. Couldn't hurt to flirt as a lady either, with guys you think might be good.

]]> By: Teen Dating Advice http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/blog/2009/08/26/dating-quality-or-quantity/comment-page-2/#comment-3201 Teen Dating Advice Mon, 11 Jan 2010 11:03:23 +0000 http://www.lifeaftercollege.org/?p=848#comment-3201 Looks like you really opened the floodgates on this one. Great blog. I've tried online dating and while you are likely to get a ton of responses, especially if you are a female, most of the people who are responding to your ad are probably people you wouldn't give the time of day in real life due to some sort of incompatibility. I think some of the best places to meet people are from other friends, work/school, or some sort of club/activity like a running club or the gym. Looks like you really opened the floodgates on this one. Great blog. I've tried online dating and while you are likely to get a ton of responses, especially if you are a female, most of the people who are responding to your ad are probably people you wouldn't give the time of day in real life due to some sort of incompatibility. I think some of the best places to meet people are from other friends, work/school, or some sort of club/activity like a running club or the gym.

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