One Day at a Time

“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”

—Ralph Waldo Emerson

Do you want to know how great things happen? Life achievements and big scary dreams? Buying a house, living a healthy lifestyle, making it to your 59th wedding anniversary (like my grandparents) or sticking to your intentions for 2010?

I’ll tell you how. One day at a time. Let me say it again: ONE. DAY. AT. A. TIME. Sure, tomorrow is a new year, but today is a new day. Make the most of it. Take a baby step toward a goal. Give a new habit one more chance to stick. Climb one step higher up the mountain even if you are afraid of heights.

Life gets too overwhelming for me when i think about committing to something like good health or a human or a house for 30+ years. I don’t know about you, but I find thoughts like that paralyzing, and an open invitation for my saboteur to swoop in and show me all the ways I’ll screw it up. So stop scaring yourself out of big things. You don’t have to do great things all at once, for the rest of eternity. You just have to give it your best shot on any given day. And that day is today.

“Renew thyself completely each day; do it again, and again, and forever again.”
—Chinese inscription cited by Thoreau in Walden

I’ll skip the “be here now” and “be present” cliches and just say this: whether it’s a New Years resolution, a big dream, or some other scary endeavor that leaves you feeling vulnerable, uncertain, and maybe even stupid – the only way you will make it is by trusting your gut and taking baby steps. One foot in front of the other. If something scares you, that just means the opportunity is big enough. And that’s a great thing.

Stress is caused by having regrets about the past or worrying about the future. Focus on today, and trust that just for today – you can honor yourself and what you really want in this life. And if you stumble? Get back up the next day and keep going. ONE. DAY. AT. A. TIME. Just do me one favor: please remember to laugh and love yourself along the way.

May 2010 bring you ALL a year filled with joy, love and laughter. Cheers!

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If you are looking for books about how to be more present in everyday life, below are some of my favorites:

  • http://diamondkt.blogspot.com David

    Goodness woman. I’m starting to understand what this life coaching stuff is and why you must make an incredible Life Coach! I feel all relaxed and better about my own life just from reading this post. You’re like Zen with a pen.

    Speaking of which, sometimes I carry my Moleskine in my back pocket, but I’m considering stuffing you in there instead. Then I could whip you out everytime I need a little inspiration, motivation, or just an all around happy thought. Read a quote or two filled with a few words of Jenny wisdom. But for now, until they make pocket-sized Jennys, I’ll have to stick with the Moleskine. (Hey, I just gave you a new business idea! Market pocket-sized Jennys!)

    Happy New Year’s to you and your Zen pen. May you both find happiness together…and as The Dog Whisper (Cesar Millan) says, “enjoy living in the moment.”

  • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

    OMG. For starters – you have two brilliant business ideas in that post – Zen with Pens being one of them! As for pocket-sized Jenny's, I'll get right to work on that. I did get two pocket-sized Moleskines for Christmas – for only $9.99 I'll fill it with personalized nuggets of Jenny wisdom just for you! I might also throw in a wishlist and checklist here or there – watch out.

    Really, though – thanks for the amazing comment. The vote of confidence in my coaching skills induced a collective awww all the way out here in California. That really means a lot to me.

    Finally – love that you quoted The Dog Whisperer! I would expect nothing less. No wonder Diesel is so cuddly :D

    Happy New Year to you too!! May this year bring you lots of laughs and cupcakes. But not too many cupcakes – because that would be a lot of calories to burn off ;-)

  • http://diamondkt.blogspot.com David

    Well that’s what entrepreneurs do – toss around lots of business ideas. :)

    Want another business idea? Together your mini Moleskines were bought for $9.99. Well I would purchase just one of those notebooks that you filled for $99.99! That is how much I value Jenny wisdom. Plus, to get a Moleskine already filled with beautiful words – oh mmm gee! If boys can swoon, that sweetness would make me drop over from the light headed feeling of a sugar induced cupcake comma!

  • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

    Okay then how about this: buy the $99.99 FDEO Jenny Moleskine and I'll throw in the cupcake for free! :D

  • http://diamondkt.blogspot.com David

    DONE!

  • http://www.cornonthejob.com/ Rich DeMatteo

    Yo Benny – this is clutch advice. It's nice to have a long term goal, but it can be so overwhelming. I'm big into training folks in reaching their health goals. When I help people lose some weight and tone up, they usually give up after setting ridiculous long term goals. I find those that make weekly goals are far more successful, but in those weekly goals they must set daily goals/habits to reach those weekly goals.

    I think I'm going to make your advice my slogan for 2010. Thanks for the wisdom :o )

  • http://www.thelifething.com/ Jonny | thelifething,com

    And a Happy New Year to you too. Have a good one, I wish you all the best.

  • http://www.lifewithoutpants.com Matt Cheuvront

    It's this kind of positive thinking, motivation, and inspiration (and there's a lot of it flowing around our blogging network) that really pushes me to be at my best – to try new things, take risks, and try harder. YOU, Jenny Blake, are a huge inspiration to me – and your positive energy is unmatched. Happy New Year to you my friend. Skype date soon? Let's set up a time in the next week or so!

  • http://www.opheliaswebb.com Elisa Doucette

    How does one eat an elephant?

    First of all, when you major in English you are supposed to have an area of literature that you “concentrate” in. I should have gone with classical literature (Ovid, Mythologies, etc.) because of my dual major. Instead my concentration was transcendental authors. Specifically Thoreau & Emerson. And you quoted them both. My heart is happy now. Today is already a fantastic day.

    How often we work towards our big lofty goals/dreams or spend far too much time analyzing and picking apart what has happened. We need to know where we've been to know where we are going, but if all we do is live in those two worlds what are we missing out. We're missing out on the moments. The simple things that make us smile each day and squeal with glee for a brief time. Getting to slumber party weekly with our friends and getting emails that make you grin ear to ear.

    The little/unimportant/trivial things that “do nothing” towards our future and don't help us define our past. To me, those things are EVERYTHING. Living life to it's fullest is loving each and every day. Not just the big things.

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