Comments on: Empty Spaces (and Moving Past Loneliness)

By: May Miscellaneum

May Miscellaneum — Wed, 01 Jun 2011 15:19:25 +0000

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By: jennyblake

jennyblake — Sun, 20 Mar 2011 20:56:00 +0000

James — that’s awesome that you’ve reached a place where you can re-frame
when you’re alone. I actually crave alone time! I think it just gets tough
being along if/when there’s something big going on — which is nothing a
little wine, chocolate and friendship can’t help fix

Thanks for stopping by!

By: James Harkins

James Harkins — Thu, 17 Mar 2011 20:09:00 +0000

Most situations can be affected by how you frame them in your mind, and I have learned to frame my alone time in a positive light, even on a Friday or Saturday night.

I don’t think this could be written/said/explained any better. Agreed!

By: Eric Novinson

Eric Novinson — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 16:55:02 +0000

Empty space is one of the major differences in life after college. I'm feeling this way right now, so it's encouraging to hear that this experience makes it easier to achieve goals. Embracing the empty space is an interesting idea, since it seems like fighting it would just make it worse.

By: jennyblake

jennyblake — Fri, 18 Jun 2010 09:02:47 +0000

Katie – thank you so much for your comment! I feel so honored that you took the time to write after just landing here

I love what you said about embracing the emptiness as exactly what you might need at any given moment, rather than beating yourself up. I'm learning that facing those empty spaces doesn't always feel good, but I usually feel proud of myself once I've made it through them and let my emotions be just as they are.

Thanks again for your comment – hang in there through those lonely moments, and know that you will be stronger because of them.

By: Katie Porter

Katie Porter — Thu, 17 Jun 2010 19:09:30 +0000

Normally I read a blog for a while before I comment, but I just have to say thank you for this post. I just found your blog today after hearing it mentioned on the May 30/20 Vision podcast.

This week, and in particular today, I've been feeling some huge loneliness. I'm an introvert and embrace it, but still tend to forget how that shapes my relationships with people. When confronted with friendships in media (blogs, TV, movies... SATC??), I tend to feel mine are sorely lacking since I have individual friendships rather than one group and we'd prefer to email and talk in person than on the phone and see each other monthly rather than weekly. I forget that I'm okay just as I am.

I'm going to try embracing this emptiness when I feel it and just sit with it rather than beating myself up about it. I see now that when I'm feeling lonely, the last thing I tend to need is forced socializing. I tend to NEED to be alone at those times. This is an interesting perspective shift.