I’m Sorry I’ve Been MIA (& Links Galore)

I feel like I just sent myself to my room: GROUNDED due to blog neglect. And don’t come out until you are ready to apologize!

So here I emerge, tail between my legs, with a bit of an apology. See, even if you didn’t really notice or didn’t really care, I know that I’ve been neglecting you these last few weeks. I haven’t been living up to the high standards and twice-weekly publishing schedule I try to uphold on this blog. Because I don’t want to waste your time with sub-par content, I end up not publishing anything at all, even though I have so much I want to say and share.

The truth is that I’ve been overwhelmed (AGAIN). Contrary to popular belief (at least based on a handful of humbling and incredibly nice emails I have received recently), I do NOT have it all figured out. “It” being this magical place where accomplishment AND inner peace co-exist, where I seamlessly balance life’s demands while walking a tightrope of my own expectations, and where I pay-close-enough-attention-to-but-somehow-don’t-over-feed my crazy emotions that seem to run amok every day.

So I have been prioritizing the book, my day job, my sleep and my sanity over just about everything else. I haven’t been writing as much as I would like, responding to emails in a very timely way, commenting on other blogs, tweeting or really upholding my end of the social media bargain. But we all need a break sometimes (or a turtle shell to hide under), and this has been mine.

That is not to say I haven’t been thinking about you. Drumroll, please! Enter THE MOST RANDOM POST OF ALL TIME.

Things I’ve been wanting to ask/say/share these last few weeks:

  1. I would love your support for my SXSW Panel – I’m pretty much scared shitless to even tell you about this panel (let alone lead it), which is why I know it’s important that I do. I submitted a proposal to speak at SXSWi (tech-geek heaven) called “Got 99 Problems But a Blog Ain’t One” to help bloggers understand what it takes to get a book deal even without a gigantic platform (much like my inside scoop book newsletters). In order to have a shot at presenting, I need your help — will you vote for my idea if you think it’s a good one (even if you’re not attending)?
  2. If I Had Known Just One Thing E-Book – I’m a contributor in the free career-related e-book compiled by Shane Mac called “If I had known just one thing.” You can either download the book as a PDF, or navigate through the fancy HTML pages (using your arrow keys). My submission is called “Don’t Wait.”
  3. Book Photo Voting & Contest Winner – Thank you SO much for the comments and votes. I’m sorry I haven’t had a chance to reply to your comments, but I read every single one and appreciated them so much — you have no idea. I still haven’t decided which picture I’m going with; the popular vote seems to be for photo #2, but I might just be leaning toward #1 (both need a closer crop). And (drumroll again) the winner of the first-ever-giveaway of my own book is Sneha — congrats! The book is in the mail (and by mail, I mean off to the copy-editor for the final round of edits. Eek!)
  4. Career Moxie BlogTalk Radio Guest Spot – I speak with hosts Tiffany and Allison about why you don’t need an official mentor (and share what inspired me to write my book). The show is about 30 minutes long, and covers how to create informal mentoring relationships and how to find mentors in unexpected places.
  5. Psychology Today article mention – Speaking of mentors, one of my favorite people, Susan Biali, recently wrote an article for Psychology Today based on conversations we’ve had recently about time management, saying no, and taking care of ourselves. The article is called, “Shackles or soul-stirring? Decide before you commit.” The part where she quotes my email response as “Eeeeeeeeeee!!!” cracked me up. Guilty as charged :)
  6. Hosted Pam Slim for an Authors@Google Talk – I was very excited to host Pam (another role model who blogs at Escape From Cubicle Nation and has a book of the same name), for an Authors@Google event earlier this month. She makes a case for building a “side hustle” (either within your company or outside if it) as a critical part of being successful in the workforce. Check-out the 45 minute video (with a short intro from yours truly).
  7. Coaching update – after 2.5 years, 115 training hours, 100+ 1:1 coaching hours, 9 supervised calls, a written exam, an oral exam, and 2 major 3-month long “I’m not cut out for this” dips, I am now a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach (CPCC)!

Just for Fun:

Blog Posts I’ve Loved Recently:

Words of Wisdom from a Recent TUT’s Notes from the Universe:

You’re the only person who knows what’s right for you. The only one.
And if you already know what this is, commit to it. If you don’t, commit to nothing.

Only you know,
The Universe

That’s it for now…I hope you all have a wonderful rest of your week! I’m off to continue my search for a life filled with rainbows and unicorns. Or just watch some so-bad-it’s-GOOOOD reality TV.

{ 30 comments… read them below or add one }

Jenny McCoy August 19, 2010 at 12:47 am

Welcome back! Admittedly, I'm just now picking up the pieces of my 3-month RSS abandonment! Good to be back and awesome to hear you've got so many great things going on. I'm looking forward to my dad's forward of this post to me :) He's a fan!


MandyMoore August 19, 2010 at 1:00 am

Jenny Jenny Jenny! You are way to hard on yourself! Everybody needs a break! You have a book coming out.

Now go watch some trashy reality TV (Real World starts in 1 hour!), pop a bottle of wine and relax!!!!


Andrew August 19, 2010 at 1:03 am

Welcome back, Jenny! Hope you get some time to take a breather soon, or at least a nap. Thanks for the link too!


Ryan Knapp August 19, 2010 at 1:39 am

Thanks for the shout out buddy!! =) Glad to see you back.


Chelsea Talks Smack August 19, 2010 at 2:34 am

I MEAN, OBVIOUSLY I'M VOTING FOR YOU AT SXSW- that would be amazing, you would absolutely rock it- yet again, you're kicking ass as usual- thanks for the shout of love, you're a rockstar.


Big L August 19, 2010 at 4:49 am

I LOVED the Psychology Today article, shared it with friends, and made a pact with one in particular to start making choices based on the shackles or soul-stirring concept…starting NOW!


Sneha August 19, 2010 at 2:48 pm

Hey Jenny! Thanks a million! I can't wait to receive the first copy of your book in the mail =)


Grace Boyle August 19, 2010 at 3:42 pm

Aww, you're so sweet. Even amongst the insanity and busy times, you're able to still provide exciting news and give back to your friends. Thanks for the congratulations :)

I voted for your panel!!


Sneha August 19, 2010 at 4:31 pm

PS– congrats on the certification–sounds like it is well deserved!


ChaChanna Simpson August 19, 2010 at 6:51 pm

Goodness Jenny! You have been seriously busy over the last couple of weeks but you've been making some stellar moves. LOVE IT! And of course, you know you have my vote for the panel, since I'm almost sure I'm going. You'd have my vote even if I wasn't. I am so loving the title.


Vincent August 19, 2010 at 10:24 pm

Blah-blah. If you cannot get it off your teal chest in twenty words.


David August 20, 2010 at 5:03 am

BREAKING TWEET: You don’t have to apologize for being human, Princess Cupcake.

Everyone’s online life suffers from time to time due to offline obligations. I kind of see it as a good thing. So no one will accuse you of giving bad Tweet if lately your underscore has been absent from Twitter streams around the world. We forgive. Deep breath. In. Out. Better? Good. Now let’s move on…

First, congratulations on being a CPCC! As if we didn’t have enough abbreviations tied to you already. 😉

Second, your SXSW Panel idea is great! I voted yes to it and I think it would be a real shame if it’s not chosen. Hey if I sit front row for it all creepy Anime girl style, that wouldn’t be weird, right? Probably not any weirder than the little bit of pee that will trickle down your leg during opening remarks.

Third, I vote for photo #3. Yes, there is photo #3. http://twitpic.com/1pv698

And finally, thanks for the link love.


jennyblake August 20, 2010 at 5:40 am

Thanks girl! I hope NYC is treating you well – I'm sure you are ROCKING it out there 😀 I absolutely LOVE that your dad is a subscriber! That means so much to me…my dad always writes back to my posts too – so cute :)


jennyblake August 20, 2010 at 5:46 am

Mandy – you are so sweet. Thank you :) And YES!!! Wine and reality TV makes the world go 'round. My shows of choice are Bachelor Pad and Kardashian anything :)


jennyblake August 20, 2010 at 5:47 am

Thanks Andy!! I'm hoping for another breather soon too… gotta make that happen. I absolutely LOVED your post (well, I love all of them, but this one in particular). You are brilliant! We'll have to catch up again sometime soon :)


jennyblake August 20, 2010 at 5:47 am

Thanks Ryan!! I can't wait to catch up once you get all moved and settled in…such HUGE, EXCITING changes ahead!!!


jennyblake August 20, 2010 at 5:48 am

Awww, thanks girl! You are amazing. I just keep thinking back to Vegas and how lucky I feel that we met! So excited for your new gig – lets “have a call” again soon :)


jennyblake August 20, 2010 at 5:50 am

Big L – thank you so much!! I'm so glad you enjoyed the article – I forwarded your comment to Susan (who wrote it) and we both felt great about being able to share the “shackles or soul-stirring” concept among you and your friends :) Good luck, and may you have many shackles-off decisions and activities in your near future!


jennyblake August 20, 2010 at 5:50 am

Wuhooo!! So excited that you are excited 😀 Can't wait to mail you a copy in March!


jennyblake August 20, 2010 at 5:51 am

Grace – thanks! I love all of your linky loves…this is the least I can do :)


jennyblake August 20, 2010 at 5:52 am

Sneha – thanks also for the coaching certification congrats! It's been a long road, so it feels really good to be done.


jennyblake August 20, 2010 at 5:53 am

ChaChanna! Always great to hear from you (and I still owe you an email :). You are fabulous and I just feel so lucky that we can support each other in our life-after-college-world-domination plans :) And if you go to SXSW that would be SOOOO amazing!!!! You should totally do it!! It would be so fun to hang out 😀


jennyblake August 20, 2010 at 6:20 am

BREAKING COMMENT: Thank you…I know I don't *have* to apologize, but I felt compelled to share the “behind the scenes” thoughts/feelings since I had gotten one too many “Wow! You have it all figured out!” emails and I realized people might be getting the wrong message….like somehow it's EASY to balance everything. Your recent post was similar in a lot of ways – I think it's so important that people see our weak/vulnerable/failure sides along with everything else. You taught me that.

Thank you so much for the CPCC congrats and the SXSW panel props/retweet! You should totally sit in the front row creepy Anime style….as long as you finish every other sentence for me.

And HOW did I know that you would pick photo #3 for the back cover?! Silly David. How about I just use this one instead? Don't tell my cubemate, but for as FREAKIN' ADORABLE as Handsome is, he's not half as cute as Lil' D.


Brett Kunsch August 20, 2010 at 2:14 pm

Jenny – thank you. This post came at a time when I've been feeling super overwhelmed (and admittedly guilty) for not being as engaged in the online world and my coaching practice as I typically am. But when I read your quite amazing list of things you've done, it reminds me that the internet is merely just a part of our life – not all of it. Most of the great things that do happen in our lives happen offline. And there's no shame in tending to those things.

I almost asked “how does Jenny do all of this stuff?” while reading your post. And then the answer struck me when you said what you've prioritized. You do say you don't know all of the answers, but one of the things you do know is how to make sense of all of the opportunity in your life and focus on those things that are most important. Deep down I know that is what it will take to keep my business and life going in the direction I want them to, but many times I can get lost in the maze of choices. Your post really illustrated how it IS possible to keep things balanced and build momentum. Best of luck on all things rocking in your life.


Monique Johnson August 20, 2010 at 4:07 pm

Even though you feel guilty from neglecting us we all understand!! Congrats on the accomplishments that you have achieved thus far! I plan to go to SXSW next year so I look forward to your panel (I just placed my vote for ya!) :)


Andrea Owen August 22, 2010 at 3:23 am

Glad I'm not the only one whose had the “I’m not cut out for this” dips during certification.



jennyblake August 26, 2010 at 6:44 pm

Andrea – definitely not…what week are you in?

BTW – I'm amazed with how much you juggle – your recent post “I'm a bad mother” was so vulnerable, honest and touching. YOU are an incredible woman…send that gremlin my way so I can kick her ass!


jennyblake August 26, 2010 at 6:45 pm

Monique – Thanks so much for your kind words last week! I can't wait to meet in person (either in NYC or at SXSW) — and thanks so much for the vote! 😀


jennyblake August 26, 2010 at 6:47 pm

Hey Brett! Thanks so much for your kind words and great blog comment last week. Glad to hear that I'm not the only one feeling overwhelmed (and guilty about it). Your comment reminds me that we are all learning together — and it helps me to realize that if us coaches can make it through these daily struggles, we will be even better able to serve our clients.

You keep rocking too! Always great to hear from you :)


HappinessandWisdom September 3, 2010 at 12:02 am

Having recently gone MIA ourselves, it’s refreshing to notice that we are not alone!! Our break was critical to our health and inspiration. No point in beating oneself up for looking out for number 1!


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