An Open Letter to Love: It’s Not You, It’s Me.

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“Perfectly lonely”… I kind of love that.

And this. <3

I cannot say how much I resonate with this. Just wanted you to know that…I could have written the same thing over the last four years. Appreciate your honesty, so much

Love you, Jenny! I have a Nyquil hangover, so no insightful comment from me. But, all the things you said about yourself, such as, “Maybe you shouldn’t be so picky”, I thought, “Hmm…hope she loves that about herself.”

I love this post so freaking much. And I feel exactly the same way.. or that is my goal at least. Right now I’m still trying to survive in the aftershock of a relationship.. but I felt that way before and I NEED to get back there. Thank you.

Rock. On! I (obviously) am SO right there with you. Now that I’m happy in my career, people are suggesting I find a nice Wall Street guy and settle down. Single girls FTW! (for now) (or maybe longer) (maybe I have a backup plan to co-raise a kid with a gay male if I never find someone) Thanks including me in this one

Such beautiful words.

PS. Take that LOVE!! In your FACE!!!

Such beautiful words!!

PS. Take that “LOVE”….In your FACE!!!

PS I love you. There. Now you have it.

But really, love this. I’m all kinds of anxious on Unfiltered yesterday – if it makes you feel any better.

I count myself lucky to be one of those friends that gets to enjoy your time, though I know I will never be able to rival the attention of Skycam. It’s ok, I have come to accept it. It’s much easier cause that guy is so fricken LOVEABLE!

Great post, Jenny! It can be so hard to put yourself out there, but you did it — and it’s awesome. Keep up the great work of being you!

LOVE LOVE LOVE. Prefectly lonely. Mmmm so good. So perfect. Fabulously well written post. Thanks for being brave enough to share cause there are million of us in the same place!

Nicely said, Jenny! I think you’re echoing the sentiments of many a single woman.

“I am tired of wondering why I am not in a relationship and wishing things were different, but then getting scared when I think they might be.”

Exactly.

Jenny – you are perfect just the way you are. And if the Skycam is the only relationship you want to have right now, then more power to you. Kudos to you for knowing what you want, and for not being afraid to say it. Love you!

Thank you for writing this much more eloquently than I could have. This has been my mindset for years. People act like those who aren’t in relationships aren’t single by choice, but I certainly am. While I enjoy the company of someone else, I also enjoy being able to do whatever I want, whenever I want, however I want without having to consider someone else all the time. I’m FREE. I can concentrate on me, and the things I want to and need to. The right person will walk in when they’re supposed to, and I’m happy that I’ll actually be able to offer someone and share things with them.

Awesome post!

Oh honey love, I can totally understand this. I’m so happy you wrote it- you’re beautiful. CHEERS TO BEING SINGLE, FABULOUS AND PERFECTLY LONELY. FOR THE BOTH OF US. xoxo.

Thanks. I don’t feel so lame now . For months, maybe even years, I’ve been beating myself up over this, wondering if there’s something wrong with me or why I can’t seem to figure this out. It’s nice to know that I’m not alone. In many ways, I think that being single is a great time for self discovery, self exploration, and developing your fullest self so that when you do get into a relationship, it’s not your better half, but just something that complements the already awesome person that you are. Thanks for sharing this.

Thanks. I don’t feel so lame now . For months, maybe even years, I’ve been beating myself up over this, wondering if there’s something wrong with me or why I can’t seem to figure this out. It’s nice to know that I’m not alone. In many ways, I think that being single is a great time for self discovery, self exploration, and developing your fullest self so that when you do get into a relationship, it’s not your better half, but just something that complements the already awesome person that you are. Thanks for sharing this.

Thank you for saying this. Even when others realize that they are annoying me with their advice, they still give it. So thank you for saying what I keep trying to say.

Jenny, I know I don’t know you as much as my “roommate” but I know this. You are a fantastic, beautiful, funny, cupcake eating, big hearted, wonderful woman. You are so right and so many people need to realize that. Being single is not a bad thing. I loved being single and I sure do miss it sometimes. Don’t change one fantastic hair on your head

WOW. You’ve said it all. Good for you!

Congrats on pressing publish! Honesty and bravery, what more can you want from blog.

I love this blog… really though! I am a 21 year old female in college and I constantly am questioned whether or not I have a boyfriend, when I say no people gasp followed by “but you’re so beautiful”…or “It will fall in your lap”. Long story short I love being single, being in a relationship is boring…Once again I feel like being “perfectly lonely” is just as perfect as I thought it was

When i first became single after being in a relationship for three years I couldn’t bare it. Then I listened to so much John Mayer and I’m completely content with being perfectly lonely. As long as I’m satisfied with my ambitions of where I want to go, I know that in time I may find someone for me. And if I don’t, then I’m also perfectly fine with that too. My family is the rock of my existence; the foundation for my love of being on this planet.

Or maybe this should be addressed to “pressure to be in a relationship?”

The problem with these relationship books (and I’ve read my fair share of them too!) is that they don’t really talk about WHY we want to be in relationships so much, or why we should have them. It’s already assumed that we know the answers to this, but I don’t think we really do when we actually take a moment to think about it and be really honest about it.

I’ve been single for most of my life and I liked it. I do really well alone. I did a lot of work on myself; I DID look inward, I addressed (not fixed!) my issues, and finally did come to a place where I loved myself, when previously I hadn’t. That’s the only piece of advice that’s really good from the paradoxical cliches! I got to a point where I felt that I understood the process of relating romantically, undid a LOT of my assumptions, etc. And then I thought, hm, maybe I’ll try out this relationship thing. I was getting bored hanging by myself (!) and thought it’d be nice to have someone regular to do stuff with; thought it’d be a good experience. I had an idea of the type of person I wanted to be with (my only requirements were that he be a good person, and someone that I was attracted to, really!), and the type of relationship that I wanted (healthy, with good communication) and so that’s where I am right now (found him via online dating. May not be for everyone, but I made it work for me). And yeah, things are good, but it’s not that different than when I was single. I’m still the same person. And that’s also something that I really wanted – to not feel different in a relationship vs. being single. Because (another cliche) the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.

I hope you’re not getting a lot of pressure from the people in your life to be in a relationship (like people saying, “why don’t you have a boyfriend yet?” GAH that is so annoying)! I thought I was, but I really wasn’t. My family didn’t pressure me. My friends didn’t pressure me, thank goodness. My co-workers don’t care. The few people who have brought it up are people whose opinions I don’t care about. I realized that the pressure that I felt really came from ME. Yes, the media is inundated with all this relationship crap (which has been my source of angst) but you really have a choice whether or not to buy into it. And not buying into it is hard, I know!

tl;dr: Let it go. Just let it go. I’m not going to follow that with “and it will happen.” I don’t know if it will, nor do you! So just let it go. However you want to define “it!”

I agree 100% with all of it. This is the attitude I took overall (with a few lapses here and there) a few years ago, and I become more and more comfortable with it as time passes. I just wish more people would embrace the concept and stop nagging me to join a nice church, become active in my community, etc. all for the sole purpose of finding a husband. And there are so many other behaviors I would love to curb! I am happy being me right now, and am glad you are learning to be happy being you at a much younger age!

Thank you for giving me the courage to let go of this “I have to have somebody” thing. It’s one less piece of Samsonite I have to carry into the airport of my brain.

I second this!!

Hugs and love this post. I have been single since May 2007. I’ve probably only been on…6 or 7 dates with 3 guys in 3ish years. It was hard at first, but man it was/is so worth it. Now I’d definitely wiser and know more about what I was doing wrong. Patterns happen for a reason and it can take us completely altering our patterns to find out where the glitch is. Committing to yourself and your happiness is most important and the most difficult. I have a feeling in a few years I will find the guy who is right for me. For now, I need to BE the person who is right for me. Perfect loneliness for the win! Just keep being your awesome self and love yourself and love will come out of the wood work. It can be easier knowing there are others taking a break which is why this comment is so dang long. Mwah.

DING DING DING DING DING!!!! Yes! Wow. Possibly one of the greatest “hit-the-nail-on-the-head” posts of all time! I have nothing to add. You said it beautifully!!!

p.s. I love how the posts that are the hardest to publish are also the ones that get the most comments the quickest. Everybody was thinking it, but nobody wants to be the one to name it. Way to speak the truth!

agreed! especially about the paradoxical cliches. Never really noticed them before but its so true.

I really enjoyed this Jenny! And, if you need a lot of studly single guys, who are nice and well to do, let me know, as I know many in SF looking for love. Cheers

Got book deal, cashed in, now off to retirement, how surprising.

Stated perfectly.

my thoughts exactly. Thanks for sharing this. being single is wonderful!

Unrelated to this post but I just wanted to tell you that your 3 Step Budget , which I’ve been using since April, has. totally. saved. my. life. THANK YOU.

http://www.neverniche.com/p/champagne-taste.html

I loved that video – she did such a great job. Hope all is well across the world, C-Los!

Thanks girl, <3 you too!!! Six months until Vegas shenanigans resume. Hell yeah.

Thank you so much Grace – that means a lot I hope you’re staying oxygenated (and safe) amidst the Boulder fires. Big hugs!

Thank you Andrea! Funny, I had never thought to love the pickiness before…but your comment made me smile and think, yeah! I do love that. So thank you so much Can’t wait to catch up soon — and I hope you’re feeling better!

Aw, thanks so much Carissa! I’m so glad that it was helpful for you. Surviving the aftershock of a relationship takes so much time and energy – you get points just for waking up and getting through your day. No need to get back on the dating horse until you are ready and EXCITED about it. Until then? Hang in there and spoil yourself

Jenny – thanks girl! I know I’ve already told you this, but I LOVED that post you wrote about being single. No need to settle down now, especially with you exploring the big apple! Single girls FTW is right! You cracked me up with the back-up plan side note, btw Have an amazing weekend!

Thanks so much Chelia – that means a lot to me

And YEAH – take THAT love! We are on a BREAK!

Awww, PS I love you too!!! I love when you share the anxious, uncertain, totally excited range of Sydney Unfiltered – it’s inspiring

Thanks JO! I can’t wait to see your return post…I was smiling last night thinking, “You know? I’m really lucky to have a friend that doesn’t want to see me give up.” So thanks for that

And you know what your comment just reminded me of?
F* YEAH SKY CAM!

Thanks so much Dani! I really appreciate the kind words

Aw, thanks Kristin! SO happy that you loved the post – your comment just meant so much to me. Definitely reminded me that I’m not alone, despite aiming for “perfectly lonely.” Have an amazing weekend!

Clare Bear – that just made my day! So happy to hear that the budget template was helpful for you And congrats on turning things around!

Thanks so much Lekeishua! Being single is wonderful — I think I take it for granted way too much! On that note, have an amazing single & FABULOUS weekend!

The Yakezie – thanks for your note! And for the offer to set me up with Single SF men

Have a great weekend!

Finding Flowers in the Fall – thanks so much for taking the time to comment. As for the cliches – I’ve just heard SOOO much advice from friends and family trying to troubleshoot why I’m single that I couldn’t help but call out how contradictory all that advice is! Reminds me that I am me, and I just need to do things in my own way. Cheers!

THANK YOU EVE!!! And you are so right – the ones that I fret and lose sleep over for DAYS are the ones that get the most comments the quickest for sure. I was seriously doubting this one, and look what happened?! I just feel so lucky that the comments are supportive and not more troubleshooting…

We must talk soon! Will you try me when you wake up? (your Saturday am, my Friday night)

Thank you so much Alex, and hugs right back ‘atcha I really appreciated your comment – I’ve been single since March of 2008 and can also count the number of dates on less than two hands. But I’m sooooo with you – being picky is worth it. My time is precious and I love my life, so I would rather take my time and (try to) be patient if I can. I love what you said about committing to yourself and your happiness, even though it is the most difficult. So true! I loved your entire comment and don’t even have enough words to say thank you. You rock, girl! Thank you so much

Aw, thanks Robin! So glad I could help give you the courage to let go of that (sometimes) incessant pressure to be partnered up. Know that you are most definitely not alone, and that there are plenty of us who are single & FABULOUS and in exactly the same boat!

Thank you Val! You’ve always had a great approach to dating, being single, and being patient. I know exactly what you mean — now if only everyone else could just take a chill pill! If I wanted to join one of those other things I would, but I am NOT doing anything for the sole purpose of finding a husband….no thanks! So much else I’d rather be doing

Thank you Susan! I’m also living alone in my own house and have related to a lot of your recent posts. You and Riley will be adjusted soon – and will get to appreciate how much joy there is in solitude.

Hugs!

Elisa – thank you! Love you to pieces. You are a brave woman for putting your dating escapades out there in your column. I think I’ve developed an allergic reaction to boys. Hives when I even think about dating. Which is why I’m going to stick to the Sky Cam for a while

Thanks Rich! I appreciate the note Hope you’re having a great week!

Thank you Reggie and Stacyann! I seriously wanted to hide after I hit publish, but seeing all these comments just COMPLETELY surprised me and lifted me up. Thank you so much for stopping by and for your encouragement and support!

Amy – thank you SO much for your wonderful comment. You are amazing

I know, what is it with people who continue doling out the advice even when they can see that it is clearly pissing you off? ARGH! We don’t tell them how to run their relationships, they shouldn’t tell us how to run being single. Thanks so much for your comment – means a lot to know I’m not in it alone

Srini – thanks so much for your comment! People like the two of us have a lot going on, and a lot that we are excited about. We are not just going to give that up because friends and family think we should run our dating lives (or lack thereof) in a certain way. I loved your post about Indian family expectations – I could relate to so much of that as well!

You are absolutely right – that being single is a great time for self discovery and exploration – especially for us personal development bloggers

Have an amazing weekend! Hope you get some great surfing in

Chelsea Love – thank you so much for you’re comment! Your many post-breakup posts have reminded me how much we have to be thankful for when we are standing on our own two single feet. CHEERS TO BEING SINGLE, FABULOUS and PERFECTLY LONELY is right!!! Love to you pieces — can’t wait to catch up Hopefully this weekend sometime? xoxo!

Valerie – thank you so much for your amazing comment. Sometimes I feel like I am single by choice and sometimes I don’t, but either way – it’s so great to be FREE – just like you said! There is so much to appreciate about that – and you are absolutely right that the right person or relationship will come when it’s supposed to. Cheers to both of us!! Have an amazing single and FABULOUS weekend

Lily – thank you so much for your incredibly thoughtful comment. I was actually thinking the exact same thing — that this post would be more accurately titled if it was addressed to “pressure to be in a relationship” just like you said.

In any case, I completely agree with you!! The books don’t do a good job of addressing the “why,” and in fact – it is a fundamentally human, biological need. There is so much wisdom in everything you said in your comment — the part that really stuck out to me was when you said you wanted to not feel different in a relationship vs. being single. That’s a great way to think about things.

Thanks again for the incredibly inspiring, wise comment. Here’s to letting go!

Thank you so much Brittany! I loved being single in college (and with the exception of a few relationships, being single since). It’s so refreshing and energizing! Sure, there are times I get lonely, but they don’t outweigh the times I am thankful for the life I’m living. I totally know what you mean about the “Gasp! How can YOU not have a boyfriend?” As another commenter noted, being picky is a great thing So cheers!

Thanks so much for your comment – John Mayer is a musical genius Family is forever, and relationships will come and go. It’s great that you are so grounded in who you are and patient about where/when the next relationship will be. Thanks again for stopping by

I wanna read your SECOND book, now! “Don’t worry….be happy!”

Aw, thanks Usman! You are so sweet And great reminder! Funny – I’m happier even just having gotten this post out Have a great weekend!

That’s a brave and cool post Jenny, Nice one! Love the phrase “Perfectly Lonely”. Check out the John Mayer song with that exact same title, that pretty well sums up what you’re saying

Hi Jenny – Just found you here… guess I’m a little slow, but I hear that’s a good thing sometimes. Ha! It’s all about timing right? Rrrriiiight. Anyhoo… as I read this post it became clear to me that if you coud just position your life on the “/” between each opposing piece of advice you’d be set. Something like this: go with your gut / go with your gut. See how easy it is? My two cents on love? Sure, glad you asked … I kind of see finding love like finding a new favorie pair of shoes. We can shop for specific shoes for a specific reason (wedding, special dress, hiking, etc) and eventually we’ll find a pair that work just fine or that are maybe even perfect. But it seems to me those shoes are never the ones that become our favorites. It’s the ones you spot just walking by, the ones you arent looking for but just happen to see out of the corner of your eye, that are the real keepers. I’ve always felt so lucky to find my favorite shoes, but ‘m still looking for a pair I don’t wear out. I know you’ll find a new favorite pair someday, especially when you’re not looking. Which reminds me, you know what big shoes mean right? Yep… big feet. Ha! I’ll leav you with this saying I’m still processing myself: “Consider the trees which allow the birds to perch and fly away without either inviting them to stay or desiring them
never to depart. If your heart can be like this, you will be near to the way.” Cheers!

This is great. You’re right…in the end it’s all about being content with who you are and where you’re at. Loving your life and the people in it. I’ve been challenging myself to not look outside of myself for security or adequacy. It’s a constant struggle, but one I’m looking forward to overcoming.

Thank you so much Tony! I love that John Mayer song — that’s actually what the link points

Have a great week – thanks again for stopping by!

So…this may be the best post I’ve ever read.

Good for you for being vulnerable and sharing what you honestly feel as those are usually the best posts…because as a single woman now in my 40′s I can tell you that some of the things you mentioned are so true and some intensify when you get older.

In fact, at one point, some thought that I might be gay because I didn’t date anyone for a long time and I lived in San Francisco. People really start to grab at straws! I loved how you bolded, “Single is not a disease that needs to be cured. It is not a problem that needs to be fixed.”

I always wonder why it never occurs to people that hey maybe people stay single longer simply because they don’t want to settle for mediocre, that maybe they are holding out for the right person versus the right-now person. And what’s the rush to couple up? I wrote a long post about whatever happened to Courtship and Wooing? http://bit.ly/8XgC47

Anyway, thank you again for being authentic. It’s refreshing and helped many people today

Love this so much. “Single is not a disease that needs to be cured. It is not a problem that needs to be fixed.” Spot on.

Jenny,

I lovingly challenge you to going on 100 first dates.

Seriously… One hundred first dates.

Why? Because I did it… and it works. I was always focused on my career (still am). I didn’t spend as much time dating as I maybe should have. After college, my career took most of my time. Yes, I dated and had two serious relationships but they didn’t pan out. Mostly because my goals were so different than my boyfriends’ goals. I spent most of my 20s feeling lonely. Sure, my work efforts were awesome and unique and exciting but I couldn’t seem to find an awesome guy that I could relate to. And the one’s I did love- well, it kicked my ass when we broke up. I didn’t take it as well because I hadn’t practiced dating enough! I kept defining and redefining what I wanted in a guy until I thought I had this clear idea. Then, I put it out into the world.

What happened? I ended up dating guys that maybe had a few things in common with what I was looking for but mostly, I was just dating guys who I felt that “spark” with. Still, I realized something: the awesome guy(s) you are looking for don’t just fall in your lap. (That is a very rare thing when it does happen.) Like everything else in your life, you have to define, refine, and intentionally create what you want in your life. That includes LOVE.

So, last October (2009), I decided to go on 100 first dates. I also helped one of my clients who is a kick ass executive coach (and now in her late 50s) develop a class called “Using Your Business Skills to Attract Your Ideal Mate.” I am NOT a dating coach nor am I a dating expert. I was the opposite. I felt like a 12 year old with my dating experience. But i had decided that I wanted something different. I not only wanted an awesome loving relationship. I also wanted to not be so sensitive when things didn’t work out.

What happened after 100 first dates?
I dated some AWESOME guys a long the way. Many of which are still great friends. But my 100th date turned out to be the keeper. He lives with me now and things are going extremely well. Am I in love with him? Is he the one?

No. He isn’t, actually. But there is no where else I’d rather be right now. We are great for each other. I’m having a blast. I feel loved and supported. We compliment each other beautifully AND I still have time to focus on my businesses, going public, writing books, blogging, and anything else I want to do. Furthermore, if we were to break up tomorrow, I doubt I’d shed a tear. We would still be great friends, definitely, but there are so many other awesome guys out there for me… I just can’t be sad about the “loss.”

This is a long comment. (So long, I might just turn it into a blog on my site. Ha!) But after reading your post, I just thought that challenging you to take the time to go on 100 first dates in the next 6-12 months would be an incredible adventure for you. It has helped me TREMENDOUSLY and continues to.

I really enjoy your blog, Jenny. Good luck with the book and everything else you have going in your life.

Heart,
Betty Jean

Hey Bo! I know I’m late to reply – but just wanted to say thanks so much for your comment Hope you’re having a great week! Cheers to being single and not fixing a damn thing

Storm! I know I’m late to reply, but your comment gave me a giant smile. Thank you so much!!

Thanks girl! I know I’m super late to reply to your comment – but love the way you put everything. It really is about not looking outward for security or reinforcement, as nice as that might feel when it happens. Here’s to being single and riding that rollercoaster together

SAG – I know I’m super late to reply, but I just wanted to say thanks so much for your incredibly thoughtful and insightful comment. You’re right – it really is about riding the paradoxes and not trying to take either side as absolute. Love the quote you shared at the end too (about the birds and the trees) — thank you!! Hope you’re having a great week

Hey Betty Jean!

Thanks so much for your awesome comment…and YOU GO GIRL for going on 100 first dates!! Wow – I’m so impressed. That’s so awesome to hear that you’ve found someone great from the process (and learned a ton regardless). Even though the idea of 100 first dates makes me cringe a little bit, I have been mulling over your idea for the last few days!

Thank you for sharing your experiences and ups and downs with the challenge – I loved hearing about dating through your perspective. Have you heard of the book, Around the World in 80 dates? Reminds me of your story.

Great to virtually meet you, and I look forward to keeping in touch!

[...] never actually met in person, Jenny Blake, who blogs over on Life After College, recently wrote An Open Letter to Love. She boldly and publicly told Love that they needed some time apart. I totally understand that. [...]

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Nice post! I agree with making the most of our time and just doing things that make you happy and sincerely not caring about relationship status or finding the one. It is very liberating. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability

Nice video post Carlos. It was cute. Very true – alone is not lonely!

Thanks Lissa! It does feel very liberating. I remember *wanting* that
liberating feeling but not quite knowing how to get there. Now that I’ve
found it, I never want to let it go!

[...] Just to be clear, I think being single has amazing benefits and I am happier now than I ever was in a relationship, likely because being alone has afforded me personal growth. Sometimes you NEED TO GO IT ALONE. But Jenny Blake may have said it best here. [...]

I just ran across this today, and I can completely relate. I wish I had written this myself. I hope you felt a little more “free” once you got this out.

Thanks Marisa! You have no idea…after I posted this, I felt AMAZING and
haven’t looked back since! It was so freeing to just say, you know what? I’m
not even going to bother with this right now. It will happen when it
happens!

Thanks for stopping by — have a great weekend!

THANK YOU FOR THE INSPIRATION!!! I JUST WROTE MY OWN LETTER TO LOVE!
YOU Jenny gave me to the courage to write it Thank YOU!

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Laurie — that’s awesome!!! It feels really great, huh? I know I felt the
weight of the world lifted after I posted this

Amen! I’ve never thought about the paradoxical cliches before, but so TRUE! I also love the line “Single is not a desease to be cured.” I think that might be my new motto!

Just stumbled across your website…fabulous! You definitely have a new follower!

Amen! I’ve never thought about the paradoxical cliches before, but so TRUE! I also love the line “Single is not a desease to be cured.” I think that might be my new motto!

Just stumbled across your website…fabulous! You definitely have a new follower!

Thank you so much Emily!! Very nice too meet you — so glad you stopped by

Love this post.. thank you for sharing this with us

love this post.. thank you for sharing this.. I am going to link this page to all my single friends

Thank you so much Evelyn! I felt SO much better after I hit “publish” on
that one Thanks for spreading the word and for reading Life After
College!

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Its true today that there is such a stigma that you shouldn’t be alone and if you are people seem to think that is sad.  There’s nothing wrong with being single and you should enjoy that time in your life. 

Thanks for your comment! Yes — there’s plenty to love about having so much time to focus on friends and family and just doing whatever one wants

Thanks for your comment! Yes — there’s plenty to love about having so much time to focus on friends and family and just doing whatever one wants

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I’m glad you linked back to this again. it’s a really great bookmarkable article!

Thanks Meredith! Have a great rest of your weekend

Wow, you sound like me. I explained myself in a very similar fashion just last week. It’s comforting to know that I’m not the only one who is alright with being single (and a mom) and loving it.

Have you heard the song Perfectly Lonely by John Mayer? Worth the purchase.

Kristal — so glad you liked this post!! If you’re a single (and fabulous!) mom, you should get in touch with my friend Dusti — she’s putting together a series called “Rebel Mamas” Her website is http://www.undefinableyou.com/. Happy New Year! Thanks so much for reading and commenting