It’s as if you’re pounding on the massive doors of the kingdom of your wildest dreams. At first lightly, even respectfully, then, losing patience, louder and louder. You pray. You plead. You beg. You ask. You cry. You wail. And just on the other side of the door, your faithful, adoring subjects silently writhe, some quietly crying, all intensely feeling your frustration and loneliness.
Yet they remember all too well how, on the day you left, you made them swear not to ever open the door, so that you might discover for yourself…
…that it was left unlocked.
I hate when that happens,
(Mike Dooley of Tut.com)
I read this quote in Dooley’s book, Manifesting Change*, earlier this week and I haven’t been able to forget it. After sharing this note, Dooley asks, “What doors have you been pounding on?” Which got me thinking about some questions for all of us.
I urge you to take five minutes to close your eyes (well, after reading) and really think about the following:
- Are you missing the obvious – the unlocked door – in any problems you are facing?
- Where in your life are you trying to force changes that you might not be ready for?
- Where are you straining with all your might without getting any results?
- Where might it be time for a different, softer, more trust-based approach?
- In what ways is the door – the world you so desire – already here, in front of you?
It might take you a few days (or weeks) to answer these questions…but start by becoming aware of the doors you might be (unnecessarily) pounding on and let me know what you find out.
A Personal Example:
I can definitely say that ever since I posted the Open Letter to Love, I’ve felt completely free and clear of relationship worries. I immediately felt the weight of the world lifted — I became so relaxed and happy, and I haven’t looked back since. It feels so good to openly declare to the world that I am going to stop straining for something that just isn’t meant to be right now.
In fact, I would be hard pressed to even commit to a relationship if one came around! After I posted the letter, one friend was concerned that I was just giving up, but my decision to walk away from trying to “law of attract” a relationship (bleh) has helped me embrace my own life and dreams more fully than I ever have.
The minute I stopped pounding down the door o’ looove I found true FREEDOM. I let out — as my yoga teacher says — “a loud sighing AHHHhhhhhhhhhh.” I get a big smile on my face just thinking about it.
Your turn for a public declaration – what unlocked doors will you stop pounding down?
*I don’t really recommend the book if you’re looking for “starter” self-help – it’s a little too out there in parts – but I love (and always get a great laugh out of) Dooley’s daily Notes from the Universe emails. For a list of my favorite development books, check out my fancy schmancy Amazon store or follow my reviews on GoodReads.