In memory of Harold Sydney Deino

This Monday morning started pretty quietly.

I woke up at home after an amazing weekend in Las Vegas. Voice scratchy, eyes tired, smiling as I reflected on good times and great friendships.

I made coffee and an to-do list: write a blog post, send the next edition of my way-too-long-overdue Inside Scoop newsletter, address the 200 emails in my inbox, make a few calls, plan a webinar for Wednesday, walk the dog, go for a run and to yoga, and drop my clothes off at the dry cleaner.

Then I got  a call from my uncle saying that my grandpa died of a sudden heart attack this morning.

He was leaving the gym (never misses a workout) and according to the garage attendant, had the wherewithal to put his car in park even while having a heart attack. Life is short, but he lived a long beautiful one and left us today at the age of 83.

The to-do list vanished immediately.

All I could think about was reaching my family, canceling everything, and driving down to Southern California. It’s amazing how families can instantly come together in times like this, and I am grateful to be part of one that has.

The remainder of this blog post is dedicated to my grandpa:
Harold Sydney Deino (1928-2011)

Harold Sydney DeinoGrandpa — thank you for being so wonderful. You were an amazing, generous, kind-hearted man.

You celebrated your 60th wedding anniversary this year, and I am in awe of the family, career and retirement you created with your incredible wife, who I am proud to call my grandma.

You were a child of the Great Depression, and taught us all innumerable lessons about spending, saving and investing wisely.

I’ve always loved knowing that you drew the exclamation phrases for the original Batman show when you worked at ABC; you taught me to value design and precision, and to take pride in my work.

I loved all of your routines: sitting outside with coffee, toast and your newspapers in the morning, 24 Hour Fitness with the latest Nikes (even at 83!), religiously taping every Lakers game, and the way you took diligent notes to learn how to use the computer,  your iPod, and your new iPad.

You take organization to a whole new level — no gadget goes unlabeled, no file sits out of place. We all smiled this evening when we went to use the coffee grinder and saw a note on the lid about how high to fill it; you really did think of everything.

You taught me to value exploration and new cultures by watching you and grandma travel the world — every continent twice over and too many countries to count.

You were the MacGyver of the house, creating contraptions and hacks and ingenious solutions for every inconvenience and product design flaw known to man.

When I visited in April you wanted to make sure I had a nice dress for my book launch party in New York, so you waited patiently while grandma and I went shopping after dinner. I absolutely love the dress we found, and I loved the proud smile on your face when I showed it to you once we got home.

The picture below is for you, grandpa — I will think of you every time I see it. We miss you so much already. Your memory will be with us always…may you rest in peace.

Reminder: send a note — or better yet, give a hug — to someone you love today.

Jenny Blake - NYC Book Launch Party

52 comments

Categories: Life

  • http://topolk.blogspot.com/ TOPolk

    Sorry for your loss Jenny. Sounds like your grandpa was a good man who did what he could to live life to the fullest. Love that he was still making trips to the gym & using an iPad at 83. :) Best wishes and much support for you and yours.

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Thank you so much, TO – I really appreciate it. And yes — after refusing to use a computer for YEARS, once we showed him that he could look up sports scores/stats he was hooked :)

  • Emily Smith

    Jenny,

    Sending support, prayers, and thoughts you’re way. Life is a beautiful thing- and hard to see someone so active leave early. Yet, a subtle reminder what really grounds us in our lives and what will always hold true meaning! Thinking of you!

    Emily

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Emily — thank you so much for the note, it means so much to me. Definitely a reminder about what’s most important, and a celebration of a life very well lived. Hugs to you, and thinking of you during this exciting time as well!

  • http://www.waterfallingupwards.com Sarah Kathleen Peck

    Jenny Blake. Hope you’re far away from internet world and disconnected, loving + hanging with your family and friends IRL. You and your family are amazing – what a great group of people. The world will miss your Grandpa. 

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Thank you Sarah :) It’s been really great (and important) to put everything else on the back-burner and just be with family…I could probably be doing an even better job of it, to be honest! Thank you so much for the kind words — looking forward to talking soon.

  • http://twitter.com/jobjenny Jenny Foss

    I love your grandpa just from this beautiful tribute. So sorry to hear this news. I’m admittedly rattled that I opened this up JUST  as I was, from no where, getting weepy at my desk thinking about my own dad, who died a little over a year ago in much the same, from nowhere fashion. Hug your family, let them hug you back. Talk, laugh and cry about Grandpa and his toast, his Nike trainers and his iPad (I’m so impressed!) The stories and the family time are what matters now. We’ll all be back here waiting for you, and keeping you in our thoughts in the meantime.

    My sincere condolences.

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Jenny — thank you for the incredibly touching comment and kind words. You have no idea how much it means to me. I’m so sorry to hear that your dad passed away suddenly last year too — sometimes it doesn’t feel real…that we won’t get to see that person again. Sending big hugs to you as well — thank you again for being so supportive. And see you very soon :)

  • http://www.mikekrass.com Mike Krass

    Thanks for the reminder to spend time reaching out to my loved ones — life is too short to not embrace the present and all those important people in your life that helped shape the person we have grown to become.

    Hope that the support you receive from friends and family during this tough time helps ease the pain of your grandfather’s passing.

    Mike

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Thanks Mike — yes, sometimes we all need a little reminder from time to time. It is amazing to see how our families help shape the people we’ve become — I didn’t realize how much until I wrote this post. Thank you so much for the kind words. I hope you’re doing well — talk to you soon :)

  • http://twitter.com/StephanieFlo Stephanie Florence

    Daily workouts and rocking an iPad?! It’s going to be tough for any man to live up to your grandpa, Jenny!
     
    As a “grandma’s girl” I can fully relate: http://bit.ly/mgZyUE. Thanks for sharing, sending hugs and positive thoughts your way : )

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Stephanie — I know, right? He was totally in with the times…we went through his closet yesterday and were blown away by the extensive Nike/Puma shoe collection! I LOVED your post for your grandma — especially her advice about being the life of the party. I can totally see that you’ve taken that on :) Thanks for the love and positive thoughts — means so much. xoxo

  • http://superduperfantastic.com/ suki

    Jenny, so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful tribute to a man who really knew how to live. Sending hugs and love to you and your family.

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Thank you so much Suki — I really appreciate the kind words. It was GREAT meeting you in person this past weekend — loved your recap post & pictures too :)

  • Mortrudin1

    Your grandpa was a very lucky man to have had you in his life. May you find peace and love for the rest of your life. Elaine and Mort Rudin

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Hi Elaine and Mort — thank you so much for the kind words. I’ve been blown away by the support that my grandma has received from all her wonderful friends — you included. I just let her know that you are thinking of her and sending your best. 

  • Andrea Banks

    Jenny,
    What a lovely tribute to your amazing Grandpa! He sounds like a man everyone was very lucky to know. The picture of you with the balloons if beautiful. I’m sure he couldn’t have been more proud.
    Warm thoughts to you and your family.

    Andrea
    @andrea_banks:twitter

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Andrea – thank you — I felt like as the writer of the family it was the very least I could do :) Thank you so much for the kind words and warm thoughts — it means so much. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Caitlin-Losey/13003942 Caitlin Losey

    Jenny, I’m so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful tribute you have written to your grandfather in that blog. My thoughts are with you and your family.

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Thank you so much Caitlin — I really appreciate your kind words and
      support.

  • http://livitluvit.com The Southified Masshole

    Oh Jenny, I’m so sorry. He sounds like he was an incredible man (Batman?! SO COOL), and it’s so hard to lose someone when your family is close like yours seems to be. You all now have your very own guardian angel.

    Sending love to you and you family.

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Thank you so much Rachel — I love the idea of a guardian angel :)

      xoxo!

  • http://www.smallhandsbigideas.com Grace Boyle

    I’m so sorry, Jenny. I loved your description of him – what a wonderful man he was and I can already tell he touched so many lives. Sending you lots of love, smiles and kisses.

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Thank you so much Grace — that really means a lot to me :) Love, smiles and
      kisses right back – xoxo

  • http://twitter.com/FrenchyCaroline Caroline Mikolajczyk

    Hey Jenny, i’m so sorry to hear about your Grandpa, i’m really close with mine, so i can definitely understand how you must feel right now. He seemed like a great man with a beautiful life, i’m sure he is really proud of what you have accomplished too. Best wishes.x

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Thank you Caroline — I really appreciate the kind words. Thanks for taking
      the time to leave a comment — have a wonderful long weekend :)

  • http://doniree.com/ doniree

    Jenny, I’m so sorry. A couple of things you wrote here remind me of my grandfather – he died a few years ago, and had been married to my grandmother for 61 years. Amazing, isn’t it? That kind of love that lasts sooooo long. It was the thing I remember most about him – how much in love he was with my grandmother, even in his last days when he hardly remembered who anyone was. (He died slowly of Alzheimer’s). I’m so sorry for your loss, but share with you the blessing of having a family that comes together in times like these. It’s bittersweet, to have everyone together in these circumstances, but my thoughts go to you and your family today as you celebrate his life and mourn the loss of it. Love you.

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Thank you Doni — I can’t believe your grandparents were married for 61 years too!!! TOTALLY amazing…and such a rarity these days. Their commitment to each other really is an inspiration. Thank you so much for sending thoughts our way — it means so much :) Love you too – xoxo

  • Heather R. Huhman

    So sorry to hear about your loss. Sudden deaths are particularly hard. My thoughts are with you and your family. I’m also sorry to have been one of those 200 emails in your inbox! I can’t believe  you responded so quickly to me with everything going on. You are truly amazing, just like your grandfather.

    On a much more positive note, you look fabulous in that dress! Rock it girl!

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Heather — thank you so much for your note and kind words — it means so much. And no apologies AT  ALL for being an email in my inbox! I love the work you’re doing and I’m thrilled to support you :)  

  • http://carynlevyonline.blogspot.com Caryn

    Jenny- I am so sorry for your loss. Your Grandfather sounds like he was a true gem. This is a beautiful tribute to him.  Cherish the memories you have. I love that photo. Sending love to you and your family.   

    My deepest condolences.

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Caryn — thank you so much for the note and kind words — I really, really appreciate it :)

  • http://www.travishartwell.net/blog Travis B. Hartwell

    Sorry to hear about your grandfather!  I mentioned to Sharalyn to say hi to you if she saw you when she was up visiting this weekend and she told me about what happened.  I understand a bit about mourning and loss, so I know how difficult it can be.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Travis — thank you so much for the comment (and tweets!) and kind words — looking forward to meeting you when I’m north this weekend! I love Sharalyn — so cool that I get to meet another Hartwell :)

  • http://yourkickasslife.com Andrea Owen

    Jenny- I’m so sorry to hear about your grandfather. He sounds like a wonderful man who had a fantastic life, just like his granddaughter.  Life IS short. xoxo

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Andrea – thank you, and yes — it is such an important reminder…

      I hope all went well with your move – xoxo!

  • http://profiles.google.com/nicole.gruen Nicole Gruen

    Sorry for your loss Jenny. You have an amazing family. Sending you love and support. The picture reminds me of the movie ‘Up’.

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Nicole — thank you so much for the kind words. Now that you mention it, the picture really does take after the movie Up! What a fun insight :)

  • Quarterlifelady

    I’m so sorry to hear about your grandfather. You’re in my thoughts, girl. Love you!

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Thanks girl — that means a lot to me :)

  • Megan | Charade

    Sorry to hear this, Jenny, but what a wonderful tribute. I’m sure your grandpa couldn’t have been prouder of you, your book launch picture is wonderful!

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Megan — thanks so much for your comment and kind words — it means so much. Have a wonderful weekend :)

  • Nick

    Hi Jenny

    I’m really sorry to hear about your grandfather passing away. He sounds like an amazing guy. I think grandparents are so important for us, because they’ve seen it all before, they’re such a source of personal wisdom for us – and they so often set an example for us that you’re never too old to feel & be young!

    Thanks so much for sharing such a personal story, and painting it with so much warmth & character :)

    Nick

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Hi Nick — thank you so much for your thoughtful comment and kind words — it means so much. So true — grandparents are such a rich, amazing source of wisdom and inspiration. Thanks again for taking the time to comment — I really appreciate it, and I’m reading all these to my grandma — I know she appreciates it too :)

  • http://nicolembryant.wordpress.com/ Nicole

    Jenny,

    I’m sorry for your loss. I know the pain of loosing a grandparent. You and your family are in my prayers.

    ~Nicole

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Thanks Nicole — that means so much to me, and I’m reading all these notes to my grandma — I know she appreciates it too. 

  • http://www.neverniche.com Clare Bear

    My condolences, Jenny. <3

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Thank you Clare — <3s right back :)

  • http://www.kacijohanna.com/ Kaci

    Oh, Jenny. I know I’m a bit late on this, but I’m so sorry. You and your family and in my thoughts!

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Kaci — thank you so much for your note — I really appreciate it :)

  • http://twitter.com/jobo_determined jobo

    Wow, that is so sad…I am so sorry to hear that Jenny. I love my grandparents so much and am so lucky they are still in great health, in their mid-80s. My prayers to your family right now as I know how difficult this is…(hugs) and beautiful tribute!

    • http://www.lifeaftercollege.org jennyblake

      Thank you so much for the note and kind words…means so much! And I’ve been reading these to my grandma too — I know it means a lot to her too :)

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