7 Habits of Highly Miserable Twenty-Somethings

Written by Paul Angone

“Happiness, like unhappiness, is a proactive choice.” —Stephen R. Covey

In my early twenties I could’ve been nominated for Miserable Twenty-Something of the Year.

Really, I had a stellar campaign going.  I was bitter. Frustrated. Angry at God, man, and myself. My twenties weren’t turning out to be the success-fest like I’d planned and somebody, everybody was to blame. But it didn’t take long to realize that being miserable all the time, funny enough, is a freaking miserable way to live.

Now at 29 years old, after years of studying, writing, and researching, here’s what I believe are the seven habits of highly miserable twenty-somethings, and then how we cure each one.

 7 Habits of Highly Miserable Twenty-Somethings

1. Complain-isicm

It seems that complaining, with a heavy dose of cynicism, has become our national pastime. It only takes three minutes on Facebook, Twitter, talk radio, or the news stations to know that if you’re not complaining about something, you’re a bit of an outsider.

We complain about our crappy jobs, the slow Wi-Fi, our leaders in the office and around the world, and the waiter who brought only one basket of bread—the whole night! Jerk.

Complain-iscm has become signature to our society—as culturally cool as deep v-necks and neon sunglasses. However, I learned that the road to miserable is paved with complainers and cynics.

The Cure? For me it was one question: What if I replaced moments where I had the right to complain and I created something instead?

It’s a simple thought, but I realized that complaining was giving the problem power over me like letting a sumo wrestler sit on me while I was still trying to run a race. The act of creating threw the sumo wrestler off and let me run my race. Complaining is passive and powerless. Creating is proactive and powerful.

2. Obsessive Comparison Disorder

Obsessive Comparison Disorder is the new OCD I’ve coined to describe an epidemic that’s plaguing our generation. It’s our compulsion to constantly compare ourselves with others, producing unwanted thoughts and feelings that drive us into depression, consumption, anxiety, and all-around joyous discontent. It’s a habit from Hades itself.

This new-found OCD encourages us to stay up late on Facebook pouring through all 348 pictures of our frenemies “My Life is Better Than Yours” album. Like having to run outside to light up a cigarette, our comparison-addiction is uncontrollable and killing us.

The Cure? Begin to recognize the signs leading up to an OCD attack. Late at night when you’re tired, do you feel your OCD begin to take over if you jump on Facebook? Do you notice that every time you watch your “favorite” show you feel bummed out about your own life because it’s not sitcom worthy? Just like you might curb the calories and quit binge drinking, maybe it’s time cut the things that consistently lead to Obsessive Comparison Disorder.

3.  Lone Rangers

Too many of us are trying to Lone Ranger our twenties — forging our own path, biting the bullet, picking ourselves up by the bootstraps whenever we get bucked off, and every other Western cliché we can grab by the horns. (ha. See what I did there?).

Do you know what I hear the most from struggling twenty-somethings? – God, I feel so alone.

Making and keeping friends in our 20’s can feel harder than Chuck Norris’s abs. But that doesn’t mean we should ride off into the sunset without them.

One of the greatest lies we can believe is that we’re all alone on this journey. We’re not. We just need to get better at seeing and reaching out to those riding next to us.

The Cure? Vulnerability. Letting people inside all the doors and walls we put up to protect our stuff. Give them a call. Open up the door. Let people in. Really talk.

4. Krizzaaazy Timeline

Our plans and dreams aren’t the problem. Our timeline is.

I thought the red carpet was going to be rolled out on Day 23 of life after college when really it was penciled in for Day 2,334. You know, for when I was actually ready to walk down it.

Trying to control the timing of your plans coming to fruition is like a seven year old trying to walk a rhinoceros—impossible with a high chance of being trampled.

The Cure? Let go. Give your dreams the time and space to do their thing. Then watch your dreams grow bigger and stronger, as you feed it with creativity, consistency, and time. And when the time is right, I swear that dream will grow bigger, better, and more beautiful than you could’ve ever imagined. Very few people are uber-successful in their twenties, and if they are, what did they sacrifice along the way to make it happen?

5. Waiting for Someone to Show Us How

In the working world, very rarely is someone waiting there to teach you. We’re not paying them any longer. They’re paying us.

For too many years in my I kept waiting for someone to show me how. I didn’t realize they expected me to show myself.

The Cure? When you’re new to an office or career you have an amazing super power—you can see problems and solutions that those who have been there for an extended period are blinded to. Obviously, that also means it might take some finesse and common sense to begin tackling problems that no one thinks exists. But instead of pointing out the problem, begin experimenting with creative ways to find a solution. Don’t wait for them to show you how, go ahead and show them without them even realizing it.

6. Failing at Failure

Too many twenty-somethings are miserable because we’ve confused setbacks for settling. That just because we moved back in with our parents or took that job answering phones, that we’re failures. Failing does not make you a failure.

The Cure? Realizing that the only real failure of our twenties would be if we never had any. Failure is simply finding a more profound way to be successful, if we’re willing to learn from it, and then have the courage to possibly fail again. And possibly more profoundly than before.

The biggest risk we can take in our twenties is not taking any at all. We can’t let failure be our death sentence, instead of just one more sentence on the page before we turn it to the next.

 7. Comfortable with Crappy

This is the scariest habit of them all. Yes for many of us crappy jobs, relationships, and setbacks are a twenty-something rite of passage. Too many people become comfortable with crappy. The job you used to hate, becoming the job you love to hate, and then the job you would hate to leave.

The Cure? Do not become content with living crappily ever after. You have a purpose inside you worth pursuing. Don’t let crappy become quicksand. Learn, grow, and then go.

Dispensing of Dirty Habits

Let’s locate these habits lying around our place and then throw them in the trash like the dirty diapers they are (sorry, the metaphor of a new dad). Let’s dispense these miserable habits before they smell up our entire decade.

We’d love to hear from you in the comments: How do you cure one of the habits above?
Are there other habits twenty-somethings need to dispense?


About Paul

Paul Angone is the creator of All Groan Up, a community for emerging adults searching for self, faith, and a freaking job. Snag a free copy of his ebook 21 Secrets for your 20’s and follow him at @PaulAngone.



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Kristi M. February 11, 2013 at 9:18 am

Good read, Paul! I’m 28 and this hits home on all accounts!


Paul Angone February 11, 2013 at 9:45 am

Thanks Kristi!


Mitchell Roush February 11, 2013 at 10:14 am

Stellar article. Very astute. Being within the target generation this article speaks of, I find this to be an excellent challenge-piece. It seems, to me, most of these 7 stem from lack of personal responsibility. The inability for those my age and younger to make a solid commitment is baffling. My growing hope is that my generation will do a better job of initiating meaningful connections to the older ones. Within my work place I’m the only 20-something out of nearly twenty employees. It’s been a breath of fresh-air to be exposed to the wisdom of those older than me that are successful. My generation needs to do a better job of accepting personal responsibility and opening our minds to at least listening to what those in front of us have to share. Thank you for this post!


Paul Angone February 11, 2013 at 1:30 pm

Thank you Mitchell for sharing this astute perspective yourself. Really like your line: “My growing hope is that my generation will do a better job of initiating meaningful connections to the older ones.” Solid truth right there. There’s tons of wisdom around us everyday if we’ll be intentional on reaching out to grab it.


Jim Blake February 11, 2013 at 10:53 am

Cool article Paul and a very important one. I was working in a lot of different environments during my 20s: Longshoreman, heavy construction laborer, Der Weinerschnitzel clerk, Paratrooper, military policeman, graphic designer/office manager, painter ( art type not house type) architecture student, architecture office novice, fiberglass bathtub washer ( hundreds of tubs – all summer !) and others I can’t remember. These jobs were very different from one another. I worked alongside people whose language I didn’t speak, peeled potatoes next to former clerks to Federal judges, listened all night to stories from ghetto gang-bangers, took orders from and gave orders to tough construction dudes, worked closely with high-ranking Army officers and poorly educated farm boy soldiers and many more; The underlying reality: develop a bulletproof personal system of keeping s***t together that revolves around diet, exercise, sleep, reading great books and keeping eyes open to wonders of the world. Required reading: “Zorba The Greek” Zorba knew how to live in the moment and savor life to the fullest giving his all to any job that came his way. Bring good cheer and you are always welcome. A smile is the international currency that knows no boundaries. Alcohol and sugar cause depression, smoking kills, drugs are for dummies. Work out for an hour a day at a level that would kill someone in their forties. Really big secret: Mouth Management – watch what you say, what you eat, what you drink, who you kiss. Learn to rebound quickly from shot relationships by excessive physical work. Remember – it is important that you start the conversation. Everyone wants to talk to you but they are shy and you are a risk-taker. Never start a conversation with a stranger you want to get to know with a question ( puts them on the spot, makes them nervous) start with an observtion – even a dopey one – “Damn this ceiling is low” Beautiful woman at next barstool “Not as low as the ones in Cleveland”….and you’re off to the races. Be the ice-breaker.


Paul Angone February 11, 2013 at 3:01 pm

Ha! Thanks Jim. Definitely stellar wisdom in here. Probably my favorite is: “watch what you say, what you eat, what you drink, who you kiss”.

Wisdom to live by! Thanks again Jim for dispensing wisdom like a gumball machine.


Annie February 11, 2013 at 11:16 am

Number 4! I have just recently realised that all my dreams to travel and own a cafe and get catering qualifications don’t have to happen before the end of this year. I can definitely still be working on them when I’m in my 30s. And 40s. And 50s =] Life is short but it also takes a while. Moving slowly is okay.


Paul Angone February 11, 2013 at 3:03 pm

Thanks Annie. Well said. If I only knew how long it would take to even come close to realizing some of my dreams, there’s no way I would’ve even started down the path.

But looking back, I can see now there’s no other, better way it could’ve happened.


natalie February 11, 2013 at 12:53 pm

i find myself experiencing all of these things. At only 22 i’m a college graduate with a great job opportunity standing directly in my path. I’m not sure I want to take it just yet, I feel too young for this. Everyone says that these things are supposed to take time – so i was planning on having a couple extra years to figure things out completely before having the opportunity to use my degree. What happens when everything comes at you fast like a fly ball from left field?


Marie February 11, 2013 at 3:24 pm

You can always quit a job you don’t like, but you cannot get a job opportunity back. You want to live life with as little “what if’s” as possible. You never know when you will get a great opportunity like this. I would just take the job and see how it goes. What do you have to lose? You will never figure things completely. Ever! You just take each step as it comes, and figure it out as you go.


Therese February 11, 2013 at 2:18 pm

Great post, Paul. SHARING!


Paul Angone February 11, 2013 at 4:34 pm

Thanks Therese! You are awesome as usual my friend.


Kellye February 11, 2013 at 5:44 pm

Paul, thanks for sharing this — what a gift! As a recent college grad, I’ve had to remind myself – pretty much on a daily basis – that dreams take time. I have dreams that I believe are not my own but God-given, and I’m ready to dive in.

However, I have to remember that it’s important to be faithful in the little things, because they are in fact big things. They’re the building blocks in a foundation on which the dream is realized.

I’d much rather take baby steps in pursuit of what I’m called to than dive into a place and find myself in over my head. It’s amazing how, simply remaining at peace in the present is a journey in and of itself.

Thanks again for sharing :) I was blessed.


Paul Angone February 11, 2013 at 8:12 pm

Thanks Kellye for sharing! Finding meaning amidst the mundane is such a tough, important lesson for sure.


Mak February 11, 2013 at 9:21 pm

Entertaining AND educational. You are killin’ it, Paul! It’s like all the things I needed to hear all at the same time. I’m not sure if someone else mentioned this but one other habit I see in myself is ‘failure to act due to believing that I’m not (blank) enough: not articulate enough, not experienced enough, etc


Paul Angone February 13, 2013 at 2:53 pm

Well said Mak. Really like your point of believing the lie that you’re not _____ enough, so you don’t move forward. Man, I was stuck out in the middle of nowhere for years believing that lie. Great point!


Julie Heinemann February 12, 2013 at 4:07 am

Thank you for this article. I decided that, even at age 59 and having to, yes, start my career completely over, these 7 habits are worth reviewing and should definitely be reflected on again and again, especially for my twenty-something friends, and new college graduates, who are forging their paths in life. I can speak from experience; DO NOT accept a crappy life or job you hate. BUT, if you have to be in a job that you don’t love or isn’t part of your dream, use it as a stepping stone or bridge to the next best thing that IS a part of your path, and always keep working toward your goals.


Paul Angone February 13, 2013 at 2:51 pm

Thanks Julie! “DO NOT accept a crappy life or job you hate”. Words of wisdom right there.


Amy February 12, 2013 at 5:43 am

*raises hand* Guilty! Guilty, guilty, guilty! Reading this brought tears to my eyes because I could relate to so much of this. I’ve managed to get to the point of recognizing some of these bad habits, but how to change them is often eluding me. Thanks so much for this article– I love that quote “setbacks aren’t settling”. Definitely something to keep in mind.


Paul Angone February 15, 2013 at 9:27 pm

Thanks Amy!


Mandy February 12, 2013 at 6:28 am

Unfortunately, I am guilty of all of these. I complain, I compare, I feel alone, I worry about when my time will come when all of my college friends have found jobs, I feel as though I have failed, and lately, I have decided to accept my crappy life and give up. I graduated from college almost 2 years ago, and after interviewing for companies that coincide with my major, I realized I made the wrong choice. Now my degree holds me back, and I sincerely don’t have a dream going forward. There is nothing I see myself doing, so I am stuck living at my parent’s house and working 2 part-time jobs. I have no friends in my hometown, and I don’t like meeting new people because I have to tell them I am doing nothing substantial with my life. I have tried being positive, thinking to myself that I am just on a different path than everyone else. Your article makes me realize other people are in the same situation as me, and I hope to apply your advice, starting now. Thank you.


Paul Angone February 13, 2013 at 9:57 am

Mandy you are definitely, 100% not alone. So many are struggling silently.

Being a twenty-something is like being a bulldog climbing a mountain. It’s slow. At some points you seriously wonder if you’re going to make it. But one small, unglamorous step after another and next thing you know you see the view you forgot you were even climbing for.


kaila February 12, 2013 at 7:42 am

Amazing article Paul! It made me feel so good. Thank you so much!


Paul Angone February 13, 2013 at 9:52 am

Awesome. Thanks Kaila. That makes my heart smile.


Anonymous February 12, 2013 at 8:25 am

Angry at god? Ummm, you have problems if you’re angry at something that doesn’t exist.


Lucille Zimmerman February 12, 2013 at 8:30 am

Excellent article Paul (and Jenny). I shared it on all my social media. Did you know that early 20s is the unhappiest time of life for most people.
People tend to get happier over time. People in their 60s and 70s often have their peak life experiences, so don’t dread getting older.


Paul Angone February 13, 2013 at 9:52 am

Thanks Lucille! Yes I think many of us learn the hard way that being a twenty-something isn’t as “sitcom” as we were led to believe.


Brandy February 12, 2013 at 9:07 am

This is a nail on the head kind of article! I can identify with all of these at one point or another. At 29 I still struggle with some of them but the one that’s the hardest is Obsessive Comparison Disorder. It wasn’t until I read this quote a few years ago that something clicked in my head: “Stop being jealous of others. Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.” That was an Ah-ha moment for me! So now every day I think about the things I’m thankful for that so many others might not be able to say: a healthy mind and body (and good teeth! those are important), a wonderful fiance, a small but supportive family, amazing friends, an Associate’s degree, 2 Bachelor’s degrees, and (almost) a Master’s degree, NO student loan debt (NONE!), a car that’s paid off, a rental home that pays for itself (and will someday be mine to live in for free), and lots of stamps in my passport. So even though I don’t have the perfect job right now (or any job for that matter), or a stable home to live in, and I haven’t started a family yet, I have SO MUCH to be thankful for. Thanks for reminding me of that today Paul. Much love to you and your family.


Paul Angone February 12, 2013 at 1:45 pm

Wow, thanks Brandy for these amazing words. That small shift in perspective is so powerful, as you demonstrated. Thanks for sharing your story.


Marie February 15, 2013 at 10:17 am

you have more than I do in my own life, so yes, you have quite a bit to be thankful for!


Susan Cooper February 12, 2013 at 7:21 pm

What a great article! Twenty Something is a hard age… Not a kid anymore but are you really an adult? I have seen many people in this stage and you have discribed many of them to a tee. :-)


Paul Angone February 15, 2013 at 9:29 pm

Thanks Susan. Yep, definitely the reason why I started All Groan Up — to help all those who are swimming in-between growing and grown


Melissa February 14, 2013 at 9:02 am

This article is amazing! I couldn’t agree more that the younger generation (my generation) is so negative, self-absorbed, and almost enjoys being miserable. It’s definitely an intentional effort to not be like all the people out there that fuel this kind of lifestyle, but it’s an effort that has changed my life. Love love love this!


Paul Angone February 20, 2013 at 7:31 pm

Cynicism is like quicksand, once you get in it’s tough to get out. Thanks Melissa for the kind words.


Jasmin Aldridge February 14, 2013 at 10:10 am

Genius, Paul!


Paul Angone February 15, 2013 at 9:28 pm

Thanks Jasmin! Much. much appreciated.


creole wisdom February 15, 2013 at 8:37 am

I think this is really spot on. In fact, I’m printing this out and sending this link to friends. Good stuff.


Paul Angone February 15, 2013 at 9:27 pm

Wow. Awesome. Thank you. I’m honored


Kim February 16, 2013 at 2:26 pm

Thank you so much for all your words of wisdom! I greatly appreciate all the advice you have. I am currently 23 working on my Master’s for Speech-Pathology have been feeling all the cliches people associate with being in your 20s (finding yourself, fear of failure, learning through experience) and all your articles have been helping me get through it (at least day by day!) Thanks so much and keep it up!!!


Paul Angone February 20, 2013 at 7:28 pm

Thank you Kim. Your comment greatly encouraged me, so thank you for returning the favor :


Travel Junkette February 17, 2013 at 10:18 am

Great piece! Though I’m not religious, I always give up something for lent as a personal challenge. A few years ago, I gave up complaining. It made me see how much I was complaining, and how silly it was. Now I complain a LOT less. It has made such a difference in my life — I’m 26 and happier than ever. I can’t think of anything else; I think you’ve put together quite a comprehensive list, Paul!


Paul Angone February 20, 2013 at 7:27 pm

Awesome. Thanks Travel Junkette! (great name)


Caitlyn @ City and the Cubicle February 17, 2013 at 9:27 pm

What an amazing post. Thanks for this!


Paul Angone March 1, 2013 at 7:04 pm

Thanks Caitlyn!


specialb2011 February 20, 2013 at 5:49 am

You’re absolutely right!

I’m glad I got fired by my [insert company here], I’ll start my own bank and start killing the future generations.

I’ll be too big to fail again!


Bobbi Lee Hitchon February 20, 2013 at 12:48 pm

Awesome article! I think my worst habit is waiting for someone to show me how.


Paul Angone February 20, 2013 at 7:31 pm

Thanks Bobbi Lee


MarcLuber February 20, 2013 at 2:21 pm

GREAT piece, Paul. So many good points and well written. The one I’d add is to say stop relying on social media and texting as a main form of communication. Phone and in-person communication are key. The loneliness, the feeling lost, the being stuck in crappy jobs…can all be helped by real life communication, which people are doing less and less of these days. Digital friends and the data of text messaging can be great, but growing up without real human interaction has to take a psychological and professional toll. Rather than using those technology tools as a crutch, use them as a launching pad into real life interaction…which is how you, Jenny and I met at her LA event a while back. Nice work!


Paul Angone February 20, 2013 at 7:36 pm

Great point Marc. I definitely agree there is a shortage of real.live.human.beings. But we always yearn for a feeling of shared aliveness. There’s something of importance you just can’t get from an avatar or a 150×150 image.


Bstar0306 February 21, 2013 at 12:24 am

Great article. I can really relate. I’m on 26 but I still struggle with all of these things!! I’m really bad at playing the comparison game.


Jasmine February 22, 2013 at 5:52 pm

As someone who is turning 25 in a few weeks, I couldn’t agree more Paul. Great read. Very well-written and spot on. I consider myself pretty successful for my age, but after reading this, there are still some “miserable habits” I need to work on breaking!


Paul Angone March 1, 2013 at 7:04 pm

Ha. Thanks Jasmine. I struggle with these daily. Still.


Liza Va. February 28, 2013 at 9:51 am

insightful and constructive – your views are universal to any age (speaking as a 34 year old) :)


Paul Angone March 1, 2013 at 7:03 pm

Thanks Liza. That’s an awesome compliment and much appreciated


Stephen Lahey March 3, 2013 at 3:41 pm

Who knows who they are and what they actually stand for in their twenties? Very few people. That alone creates a lot of confusion and wasted energy. Figuring that out is a key that opens a lot of doors, in my experience. Yours too, Paul?


Paul Angone March 15, 2013 at 2:10 pm

Definitely Stephen. Thank you. I have this theory that everyone is intentional. Most people are just intentionally UN-intentional.


.. March 9, 2013 at 3:45 am

I “suffer” from every single one. Gah Im such a cliche. I just wish I HAD a specific goal/knew what I wanted to do


Whitney March 11, 2013 at 4:40 pm

Hey Paul! I read these articles at random from recentgradsonly and was psyched to see this was written by you. You wrote to me a few times after I posted 21 secrets for your 20’s on Pinterest (again, the success was all yours). I just want to say thanks for making us all feel like maybe we are normal, or at least have A LOT of friends out there haha. Congrats on your success! I look forward to more from you.


Alex Adams March 15, 2013 at 4:29 pm

Great points. I like the play off of Stephen Covey’s book and the use of his quote. The Complain-icism is exactly the reason why I only put important people in my news feed so I would not have to read people complaining all the time.


Elizabeth May 7, 2013 at 9:57 pm

This is a very well thought out article. I’m tired of reading articles about life after college that just give career advancement advice and say things about how much you’ll miss college.

I think a part of the post-grad angst also comes from that old cliche about college being the best years of your life. Somehow I think the saying was taken to heart so much that when people graduate they really believe that the best years of their life are over.

College is fun, but I see a whole lot of adults out there having even more fun. You just have to take those things that you learned and enjoyed in college and apply them in life after college. And this time you’ll have money, so you can do even more awesome stuff!

Unfortunately, too often the Obsessive Comparison Disorder and Complainicism sets in, usually when a twenty something is forced to settle for a sucky job, so instead of doing awesome stuff they just lose all energy and motivation.

Anyway, great article. Thanks!


Nina D. May 15, 2013 at 10:09 am

Ug. You spoke to me with every one of these. Thanks!


SS June 4, 2013 at 9:03 pm

First of all it is incredibly relieving to know I’m not the only person who can totally relate to all of the above statements. It’s also really encouraging to know that maybe if I change my attitude and perspective about my life right now I won’t feel so crappy about it.

Thanks so much for this article, it gives me some hope.


kit June 16, 2013 at 2:04 am

wow. thank you!


Tumichuene June 17, 2013 at 5:49 am

Love it, it came at the right time. I’ll be 27 in October


esma June 24, 2013 at 3:25 pm

And then all will be fine, life won’t be miserable when we turn 30 or sth? I do think that life just is miserable for some people, and u can behave responsibly to an extent, but please do not tell to play this polyanna game, cause that just does not correspond the truth… sorry to dissapoint…


Jack Arcentales July 14, 2013 at 1:02 am

This is so spot on! I can relate so much to this! I’m pretty much guilty of all of this. Although I finally got a job in a field that is difficult to get your foot in, I still have my doubts and fears especially for a guy who hasn’t graduated from college. If complaining and OCD’ing was an Olympic sport, my ass would have 2 gold medals and then some. Thank you so much for these words. It gives me comfort knowing that I’m not alone.


Kyle October 3, 2013 at 6:05 pm

This article was great, Paul. I’m 21 and still in college, I’m glad I was able to read this and be better prepared for when I step out to the working world. The part about letting other people in was really important for me to hear… infact, most of these things were things that I already knew but I needed something like this to give me a little kick in the ass to actually start applying it to my life.


Peter G December 3, 2013 at 3:50 pm

Good article. Thanks.

I’m 27 and I’ve felt very crappy for almost all my twenties. I moved out to San Francisco with a heart set on working in marketing software and technology. 6 months later I got the boot from my apartment, lived on a couch for 1 month, my friends drifted away then moved back home with my parents. After coming back with anxiety attacks and depression cause of the set back, I jumped around different places in the US being a lone ranger trying different jobs with some money problems all along the way.

Then decided to go back to an ad school thinking it would better my chances getting back to San Francisco, but didn’t quite hold. Now I am jumping in and out of temp jobs in Chicago trying to take responsibility for my career.

There is definitely something to be said about not sticking with crappy, but it’s a balancing act. On one hand you need stability and on the other you need a life. All of these points go towards the emotional struggle 20-somethings endure with their identity in this age community. I think the lone ranger point you had really hits home with me because its been so hard making friends with all these moves and keeping that sense of resilience that all of your college friends seem to have now with their senior positions


Chris M January 18, 2014 at 1:59 am

nice knowing I’m probably not the only loner 21 year old out there


Jen May 2, 2014 at 2:12 pm

Wow this is a awesome article. Very Motivating to know I’m not the only 25 year old that “felt” like I am a failure because of my Frenemies. Outlandish time
line is very true. At this age I was suppose to have my dream house, be set in
my career. I was supposed to be on vacation in Fiji, horseback riding along the
beach watching turtles! Sometimes life will hit you with a little more work
that will cause you to work harder. You just have to keep going and learning. A
wise thirty-something man told me at 20, “you won’t stop learning until
you’re dead”. So flexicution is the word of day. Be flexible about life
and everyday execute! Thanks Paul for the reminder. Will share and God Bless!


Cameron July 6, 2015 at 3:44 pm

Thank you for the great points Paul. This really hit it on the head for me. I find myself in a somewhat difficult situation because after 13 years of doing what I loved for so long (cooking) I now am finding that the quality of life assosiated with it makes me miserable. I love my career but hate the quality of life. I miss my friends, family and just personal time away from my 75 hr weeks in the kitchen.

Sometimes just reading a little article like this really helps. keep up the great work.




Lettuce October 3, 2015 at 11:48 am

I am 22 and have decided to hang myself now, I recommend that YOU all do this too.
Get it right and you pass out in 5-10 seconds, and die in 5-10 minutes.

Humans are just simply pointless, all this fuss to just die and that’s it.



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